My heart aches with love for you. Before you were born, I wasn't sure I'd have enough space in my heart for it to overflow with love for both you and your sister, but I do - it does.
But James, I often feel like I am failing you. And that scares me. You are a wonderful little boy - you sleep through the night, you are content, you do well in the car, and you give the biggest, brightest smiles. But I take advantage of those - I have been able to continue helping out at the church, I have been running in the mornings, and taking classes at the local gym many evenings which means less time with you.
I don't have the same amount of time, attention, and patience to give you as I did your sister. When I do get time with you, she often pulls me away from you so I can save her from being 'ducckk' with her head trapped between spindles on a chair, or after having climbed into your exercauser.
I go back to work next week. On one hand, I am excited - I enjoy working, I love my job, and this is what I want. I know it'll only be a couple of days a week for now, but as much as I am excited, I am scared. I am scared that I will miss your childhood and I'll regret it later. Being out of the house makes me a better mom when I am at home, especially with your sister who keeps me go-go-going all the time, but it still tears me apart inside to think of you spending days without me.
Going back to work also means that you and I won't have one day a week for just the two of us anymore. I'll miss those.
Going back to work also means that you and I won't have one day a week for just the two of us anymore. I'll miss those.
If I am being honest, James, there are two things I am terrified of for you:
1) That you won't end up understanding, grappling, and grasping the love that God has for you. He loves you infinitely more than I do which (if I am being honest) is incredibly challenging for me to understand. I hope you fully comprehend that love some day, and that you spend your life searching and working for His Glory (whether that be as a doctor, engineer, salesman, artist, pastor, or career of your choice).
2) Selfishly, I am also terrified you won't love me. I want you to love me and I hope you will be able to forgive my mistakes and misgivings. I hope you will feel I am an honest friend who wants what is best for you. Always.
You will not understand my love for you until you have a child of your own, but I hope you will at least always know that I do love you, I support you, and I will stand behind and beside you, no matter what.
I love your handsome smile.
2) Selfishly, I am also terrified you won't love me. I want you to love me and I hope you will be able to forgive my mistakes and misgivings. I hope you will feel I am an honest friend who wants what is best for you. Always.
You will not understand my love for you until you have a child of your own, but I hope you will at least always know that I do love you, I support you, and I will stand behind and beside you, no matter what.
I love your handsome smile.
I love the way you flinch when your sister comes to give you a hug.
I love your giggles when you get excited.
I love your little kicking legs.
I love how chubby your arms and legs are, and how round that belly and your cheeks (both sets!) are.
I love your joy-filled personality.
I love watching you in the bathtub since you love it so much.
and I even love those smelly little toots.
I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living, my handsome little James you'll be.
Your mama
I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living, my handsome little James you'll be.
Your mama
He is so insanely handsome!
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