|Ella at four weeks old, February 15th, 2011|
I have listed the 10 Hardest Things About Being a New Mother in no particular order. Please know that I wouldn't give her up for anything though. And you should stay tuned for my next post, the 10 Best Things About Being a New Mother!
1. Breastfeeding - It hurt more than I thought it would at first, and it is frustrating being constantly tethered to her.
2. Everything takes longer - There is no easy running to the grocery store anymore! Everything takes time. If we want to go out, we usually have to make sure she has eaten first, and then changed, and in her car seat, and then she is probably screaming, and we have to make sure we have everything we need in her diaper bag, and then I have to make sure I am presentable (as usually, I am not).
3. Using the washroom and taking a shower is much harder - It isn't too bad when Dave is around, but when he isn't around it is ridiculously hard to use the washroom or take a shower!
4. Being peed and pooped on, especially in the middle of the night - It is the most frustrating thing to be awake in the middle of the night and then be peed and pooped on while trying to change a diaper and have her gett pee and poop all over everything. It makes me want to cry.
5. Having Ella spit everything up after I just fed her - This kind of relates to number one. This is especially frustrating in the middle of the night. It means we have to start back at square one.
6. Breastfeeding between 2 and 5 am - I can handle before 2, and after 6. But between 2 and 5, I am literally exhausted and it is hard to stay awake. This is obviously also related to #1.
7. Not being as productive - I love holding my little baby girl. But sometimes it is hard when I am holding her and all I can see is a room that looks like a tornado went through it, and I can't get up to clean it up.
8. Feeling useless - I know in my head that taking care of a baby is useful. But not doing other things for the world makes me feel useless.
9. Loneliness - Staying at home all day is hard. Especially with a child who can't talk to me.
10. The Screaming - It breaks my heart. And it also gives me headaches.
What about you? Do you have children? What did you find hardest about being a new mother or father? If you don't have children, what do you think will be hardest for you if/when you do have kids?